In April we went to Kansas to visit Ty’s family for Easter. I had the feeling I was ready to start a
family, but hadn’t brought the idea up in conversation with Ty yet. It seemed early and I was surprised that I
felt the way I did. After we got married
we told everyone it would be 3-5 years before we had kids, but here we were 9 months
later and my heart was yearning for a baby.
Ty’s mom wanted to make a time capsule to bury and dig up in
ten years. She had asked each of us to
write out where we thought we’d be in ten years to put in the time
capsule. Ty and I started working on
ours. It got us talking about how many
children we wanted and what the time frame was for starting a family. We had talked about having a family before
and we knew it was in the plans for us.
The time capsule letter got the ball rolling on the conversation of when.
The next day, April 8th, we had a four hour car
ride back home to Oklahoma. I brought
the subject up again and we started talking about it in more detail. When I told Ty I felt like I was ready to
have a baby soon, I was shocked when he said he was too. Since I’m a teacher we figured a May baby
would be the way to go. We counted out
the months and decided we would want to be pregnant around September (I guess
we did our math wrong). We figured it
would take us 3-4 months to get pregnant, so we should start trying in June or
so.
While we were talking the alarm on my phone went off, reminding me to take
my birth control. I realized it was the
last day in my pack (it was just meant to be).
I told Ty and asked him if maybe I should just not get another
pack. We decided that we wouldn’t pay
for another pack because most articles I read said it would take a few months after you stop taking birth control for your body to get back on a regular cycle. We figured we would just be careful for a couple months.
That night when we got home I got out a notebook to write
down my thoughts and feelings. Reading
back over them now is funny because I wrote “I am so excited I just want to
start trying right now! I just hope we
are able to get pregnant and don’t have any complications or miscarriages, although
I’m okay with adoption.” We went to
Wal-Mart and bought prenatal vitamins because I read it was best to take them
for a few months before even conceiving.
We also got a package of pregnancy tests. Ty thought it was silly, but I explained to
him that when the day came I didn’t want to have to go out and buy one. I’m so glad we made that decision!
My husband was in grad school when we got married, we thought we would wait at least the 2 years until he graduated to get pregnant, but 5 months later, we started trying! The Grace of marriage has the tendency to change hearts!
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