Sunday, April 7, 2019

What I Read: March

I read some awesome books this month and got a few more in than usual, thanks to spring break! It was a good month for reading.

Books:
  • Unmarriageable: Pride and Prejudice in Pakistan by Soniah Kamal- When I first saw this book I was super excited to read it. I love retellings of Austen's books, especially Pride and Prejudice, so I put it on hold right away. It took a really long time for me to get it because there were lots of holds on it. When it came in I was about 100 pages into The Poisonwood Bible and was loving it. Since I owned that book it made more sense to stop reading it to get through this one before it was due at the library. I was really enjoying The Poisonwood Bible so I had a hard time transitioning and it took me a little bit to get into this book, but once I did I loved it! I liked the way Kamal took subtleties from Pride and Prejudice and made them more obvious. It was also interesting how social concepts that are now outdated in other areas of the world were still pretty current in Pakistan.
    The pretty cover helps too!
  • The Poisonwood Bible by Barbara Kingslover- It took me a while to get through this one because I was interrupted by a hold coming in at the library and then by an ebook I couldn't stop reading. It was such a good book though and it was hard to stop reading it. It brought up some questions for me and now I'm really interested in reading about Eisenhower to see if his foreign policy in the Congo is even discussed in his biographies.
  • An Ordinary Man: An Autobiography by Paul Rusesabagina- This was a book club read. It is the story of the man who's life inspired the movie Hotel Rwanda. Reading about the genocide was just sickening. It was hard to imagine how life could go on in a country that had endured that kind of massacre. I was so amazed by Rusesabagina's character and his ability to negotiate with terrible people. I was impressed with his ability to let people walk away from a conversation feeling like they had won even though he had gotten what he wanted. He is an inspiration. I imagine he is the kind of person you can tell is amazing just from being in the same room as him, one of those magnetic personalities that shines through.
  • The People We Hate at the Wedding by Grant Ginder- This was also a book club choice. I had a hard time getting into it. It didn't help that I was reading it at the same time as After Anna which was so much better and more suspenseful. It was interesting that I ended up reading these books at the same time because in both stories the mom had a child with a husband in Europe and the marriage didn't work out. I got a little mixed up with the characters when I was reading them both at the same time. This wasn't exactly my kind of book. All the characters were semi-terrible and hard to like. But the overall message was about family and was good. I wouldn't say I disliked the book but I wouldn't recommend it to someone else. I have a hard time with characters who you just want to slap and tell them to snap out of it!  
Ebooks:
  • There There by Tommy Orange- I'd been intrigued each time I saw this book on a list or on a special shelf on the library. I asked our librarian if she'd read it and she said she had. She said it was good but sad. Her overall reaction was kind of meh. I felt pretty similarly after I read it. It was so well written and it was really interesting to find out how the characters were all connected toward the end of the book, but man was it depressing. Which was the whole point, but it was still hard to read sometimes. I was glad I read it as an ebook because I'd have chucks of time where I didn't read it for a while and that was for the best. Otherwise it would have made my mood gloomy.
  • In a Dark, Dark Wood by Ruth Ware- My mom mentioned that she read this book and it was really good. When I finished There There I couldn't decide what ebook to download next. But I knew I wanted something more "fun" than that had been. I came across this one and decided to read it. It was so good and was the kind of book that you just have to keep reading to find out what happens next. I stayed up past bedtime reading for the first time since I read Little Bee. Usually I'm able to ask myself, "In the morning when you're alarm goes off would you rather have read one more chapter or have gone to bed earlier," and that helps me stop. But this was just so good and so suspenseful I couldn't! Usually my ebooks play 2nd fiddle to my regular books. I just read them when I'm somewhere without my book or if it's too dark to read my book and I don't want to use a flashlight (like naptime at school). I was reading this at the same time as The Poisonwood Bible which was an awesome book but not super suspenseful so I ended up reading this one in place of it. Once I started it I couldn't stop and I think I finished it in 2-3 days. It was so good!
  • Tell Me More: Stories about the 12 Hardest Things I'm Learning to Say by Kelly Corrigan- I saw this highly recommended on Modern Mrs. Darcy so I thought I'd give it a try. I figured with the kind of nonfiction it was, an ebook would be perfect and it was. I was surprised by how much I loved this book! It was so well written and really insightful. I think saying, "Tell me more," during a conversation is such great advice. Rather than jumping in to solve the problem, you allow the speaker to feel heard and valued. Now I want to find more books written by Corrigan because she had such a way with words. She could make any story beautiful!
  • After Anna by Lisa Scottoline- My friend Sara recommended this book to me. At first it worked out great as an ebook since the sections were short but it quickly took over and I stopped reading my regular book to finish this one. It was so good, I couldn't put it down. I loved that it kept throwing me off. I'd think maybe I'd figured something out and then I'd turn out to be totally wrong. If you want to read this book, do not read past this sentence, skip the rest of my critique! I hated to see a storyline where someone is falsely accused of sexual abuse because I think stories like that cause people to question accusations even though false accusations are so, so rare. But she definitely made up for that with the inclusion of a sex trafficking ring in America. I think so often people think of that as an outside problem and don't realize it actually happens here too. That was just my little two cents on it, the book really was amazing!  
Audiobooks:
  • The Widows of Malabar Hill by Sujata Massey- I saw this on Hoopla and was hopeful it would be similar to Erotic Stories for Punjabi Widows since it was also about Indian widows (very narrow-minded of me, I know). The two books were nothing alike but I also enjoyed this one. It was more of a mystery than the other one, although the other one also had that aspect to it. After the fact I realized it was the first book in a series of Perveen Mistry books. I'd like to read some more of them at some point. I liked it as an audiobook because I love Indian accents.
  • I Remember Nothing: and Other Reflections by Nora Ephron- This was read by Nora Ephron and just as her other 2 books were, it was amazing. I was reading a story that mentioned this book and I was shocked because I hadn't realized she had another book. I was really excited and found it as a downloadable audiobook right away. It was so funny and insightful and I loved her stories. It is crazy to me that I adore her books and think I would have enjoyed her as a person but I'm not a huge fan of her movies. They are a little over the top with the romance for me. Although the comedy in them is on point. I guess I'd just say they are okay, in my opinion. I loved that in one story she shared she almost stopped writing a screenplay she was working on because it was hard and she was sure it wouldn't get made into a movie anyway. Then it was revealed the movie was When Harry Met Sally, the movie that changed her life.
  • Big Stone Gap by Adriana Trigiani- I had this on my list from reading Dear Farenheit 451: Love and Heartbreak in the Stacks. It was read by the author and at first I didn't think I'd be able to get into it due to the way she read. But the story line was so interesting and really hooked me in. It's the first book in a series and I think I'll read the next books instead of listening to the audiobooks since they are all read by the author. Sometimes that's a good thing and sometimes it's not. This one I was impressed by. I was surprised by how much I loved Joshilyn Jackson reading her books in and audiobook.
  • The Partly Cloudy Patriot by Sarah Vowell- I wanted a short audiobook to listen to while I waited to get a book I had on hold. I picked this one because I remembered my mom liking Sarah Vowell and I'd had it on my book list. I absolutely loved this book. I felt a kinship with Vowell over her love of history and nerding out over visiting historical places. I was jealous of her trips to presidential libraries and Salem, Massachusetts. The book was read by Vowell and her goofy voice made the book even better. I loved it. I was disappointed our library doesn't have her other books as audiobooks because I enjoyed listening to her read her work.

Saturday, April 6, 2019

Spring Break Trip

We had an amazing spring break. Monday we went to the park with my friend Niki and her girls. Her older daughter is Carter's age and her younger daughter is Elise's age and her best friend. They're special friends in that Elise enjoys playing with both girls and so does Carter. Then Tuesday we got doughnuts and went on a clover hunt at a different park with Niki and the girls. Wednesday Ty was home and went with us to the zoo for storytime and Niki and the girls came too. Then Thursday was Elise's birthday and we planned a little trip. She wanted to stay in a hotel but didn't care where we went. I came up with a few different options and asked the kids what they wanted to do. Elise didn't care and Carter initially picked to go to Roman Nose State Park to camp in a teepee and then drive from there out to a couple other state parks we haven't been too. Once I looked into it more I realized the teepees weren't available until April so he went with his second choice, The Science Museum in OKC and then going from there out to Red Rock Canyon State Park. Thursday we stopped off for birthday doughnuts and then drove to OKC which was only about an hour and a half. We hung out at the science museum all morning, ate lunch in the car, and then went back inside. We spent 5 hours at the museum before calling it a day and heading to the hotel. More about our time there in Elise's birthday post here. It was so much fun seeing Ty at the science museum. He was really in his element and loved it. Typically I'm the one nerding out at kid stuff like the zoo, aquarium, children's books, coloring, playing at the park, really anything meant for kids. But here Ty was having so much fun interacting with the kids and playing with the exhibits. In moments like that he really is at his best as a dad, those engineering and science-related moments. I know I mentioned this before but I just have to say it again, we got into the science museum totally free, thanks to our membership to the Children's Museum here! It was ah-mazing!
Drawing with sidewalk chalk outside the science museum.








We made it to the hotel around 3:30. Ty checked in and found out we had to pay to park in the parking garage. We didn't want to have to pay to park more than once so we decided we'd walk anywhere we went that evening. We went straight to the pool once we changed into swimsuits in our room. The water was really cold and I was not happy being in the water but once I got a little more used to it, I had some fun playing with the kids. The pool was perfect because it wasn't very deep and it had a beach walk-in so Carter felt really comfortable and actually wanted to swim without floaties. Elise swam without hers some too. There was a little slide in the shallow area and Elise had a blast on it. She pretty much went down it and turned around and went back up to go down again. After swimming we took baths and Elise opened her birthday presents. More on Elise opening her presents in her birthday post here. Elise wanted Easy Mac for dinner instead of eating out so she and Carter had Easy Mac and fruit at the hotel before Ty and I went to dinner. We decided to do something we've never done before and let the kids take their tablets with them to dinner. It was actually pretty nice because it was like having a date with Ty. The kids were really tired from swimming so them sitting, watching us eat wouldn't have gone very well otherwise. Getting her tablet was also great incentive to Elise to walk rather than ask to be carried. I was surprised that even after swimming and skipping her nap she didn't ask to be carried at all on our walk! After dinner we walked to a candy store as a special birthday treat. The kids loved it!

The next morning I was hopeful the kids might sleep in a little but they were up before 7am. They wanted to go straight down to breakfast and both enjoyed some waffles, fruit, and yogurt. Then it was off to swim. When we first got there it wasn't very busy but it filled up pretty quickly. Elise was so sweet and told me, "Since you were cold yesterday, you don't need to get in today." I sat and watched them and even read a little bit. While the kids swam, Ty loaded the car. After he finished he came and watched the kids so I could take a breather. It got really hot and humid in there! I wasn't thinking and wore regular clothes. I should have gone ahead and worn my swim gear down to the pool even though I wasn't getting in so I wouldn't have been so hot. Both the kids had an absolute blast. After 2 hours Carter was ready to go but Elise wasn't so he kept swimming. Eventually we decided it was time to go because Carter was really done and Elise was super tired. She was so tired she didn't even want to walk to the car. Ty let her ride on the cooler for a little bit. The line for the elevator to the parking garage was super long so we decided to walk outside and around. Ty accidentally bumped the cooler into his heel and tipped it over. I laughed because I thought it just hit a bump and tipped, I didn't realize he got hurt. He just shrugged it off and didn't even mind I laughed although I felt bad for laughing when he got hurt. The drive to Red Rock Canyon was only about an hour. I was wishing it was a little longer because Elise fell asleep on the way there and I knew she needed a longer nap.



When we arrived at Red Rock Canyon we found out it is no longer a state park anymore. It was sold and is now privately owned but it's still free to get in and they charge the same amount for everything that the state used to, I was impressed. It was absolutely beautiful! We got there a little before lunchtime. The kids played at the park for a little bit and then we ate lunch. After lunch we headed off for a hike. Carter really wanted to do some rock climbing so when I saw a place where he could climb down and then climb back up we took a break from our hike and let him play around. Watching him climb was my favorite part of our hike. Ty found a spot to take some pictures with our nice camera and got some good shots. We tried to follow the map with the hiking trails labeled but some sections were much longer than it showed and both the kids started to peter out. It was way hotter than we are used to and the sun was beating down. They were both sweating and uncomfortable. We let them take their shirts off and they felt better after that but they both cycled through Ty carrying them for sections. I had an 8 mile tempo the following day that I wanted to nail so Ty didn't want me carrying the kids and I appreciated that! I ended up nailing the tempo with a 6:43 average pace so I'm glad he was willing to carry the kids more so I wouldn't have to. Once we got Elise distracted with the map and she "navigated" us on the trail she did better walking. Carter was just absolutely exhausted after swimming all morning on less sleep the night before than usual so he was getting pretty tired and fussy. We were all super glad to be done when we made it to the end of the hike.









On our drive home we decided it would be nice to break the drive up by stopping at a playground in OKC. I looked on my maps and found one that looked really cool and we stopped off there. At one point Carter found a boy on the playground who spoke Spanish and they were talking to each other in a mix of English and Spanish, it was really cool! There was a guy with an ice cream cart at the playground. Elise saw people eating ice cream and wanted some. I asked if she wanted to buy some with her birthday money and she got really excited. She ran to get Carter and told him she was buying them ice cream. Then she really didn't eat much of hers. They had a blast at the playground and it made the drive the rest of the way home really enjoyable. We stopped at Thomas' house to pick Tesla up and the kids enjoyed telling him about our trip. We had such a great time! The trip was so nice. We did minimal driving and spent hardly any money. The Science Museum Oklahoma admittance was free, getting into Red Rock Canyon was free, we didn't use much gas, and the kids ate Easy Mac for dinner (rather than paying $4-5 for a kids meal at a restaurant for them to likely eat the same crappy mac and cheese). It was such an affordable trip.

Wednesday, April 3, 2019

Wordless Wednesday

Carter and I walked to get ice cream as a special mommy and Carter treat.

Elise wanted to pack her own lunch. She ended up with three different kinds of cheese.
I looked back in the car and Elise was playing with her umbrella.

Carter wanted to wear our library backpack.



Carter pretending to be asleep when we got home from a party.


Carter's ball landed on the roof so Ty lifted the kids up to get it.



We got a flat tire so Ty came out to help me change it. Thank goodness he did because I had a hard time getting the wheel out from under the van.
All the things Elise needed to take with her to the library for storytime.
Stopping to feed her baby.
Napping on the way to pick Carter up from school.
Best outfit ever and ready for gymnastics class.